My clients health, food, weight concerns and eating issues are directly connected to the strategies they use to brace against uncertainty and fears about life, love, $, and health. Economic instability and uncertainty contributes to stress. We have not been taught how to do uncertainty, which creates stress.
Stress causes decreased digestive function and calorie burning, and eventual cellular and chemical wearing down of the weakest links the your body. Chronic stress depletes the human system, leading to unwanted symptoms and behaviors. It’s predictable.
There is an obstacle called “control”. Because life is uncertain, sometimes intimidating, and life ultimately has its way with us, we try to overpower life through control. We control our feelings (anger, lust, desire, selfishness, greed), desires, impulses, fears, loved ones, friends, diet, exercise - anything. We become control freaks, because it helps us feel safe and powerful. Ultimately, too much control stops the flow of life, creativity, love, healing energy within the body and wisdom.
Extreme control becomes “perfectionism” - the search for the perfect diet, perfect body, perfect weight, perfect lifestyle, the perfect schedule, perfect health. Always around the corner from perfectionism and intense control is self-abuse. I notice where in life you try to control.
Control is a symbolic substitute for that thing that were looking for, which is a sense of trust and connection. If I trusted life and felt connected to the greater whole, I wouldn’t have such a need to control stuff. The reality and truth of the matter is, what can we really control? Very little, really. The universe works on it’s own and it doesn’t need us to manage it. And yet, when it comes to food, many of us think “well if I can’t control my life, the world, my spouse, kids, etc. then I will control my diet and my weight.
The truth is that life is uncertain. The truth is that life has always been uncertain and it always will be. Uncertainty is the way of the universe and it’s okay. It’s not so bad as we’ve made it out to be. Uncertainty is a basic cosmic law. Uncertainty exists and, strangely enough, it guides us. Uncertainty is the “void” before creation. Metaphysically, chaos and uncertainty always precedes creation.
Embracing uncertainty allows us to let go of control. It allows for the magic of life to happen. When we are trying to control, the magic can’t happen. When we relax into uncertainty, wisdom is born. Can you relax into not knowing? Can you embrace the journey and the unknown, instead of resisting and bracing against it?
Clients often come to me in great fear of uncertainty and looking for control. They could be dealing with weight, digestive and mood issues, food allergies, they hate their life and their body. I ask questions and gather information. I make the connections and sometimes connections reveal themselves. My job as a coach is to help my clients relax into uncertainty. What heals is when we learn to trust around uncertainty, around finances and surrender to change.
The soul often learns life lessons through pain and suffering. This is life's grand workshop in which a Greater Intelligence is asking us to evolve through the pains, challenges, hurts of being alive on earth and all that means. Not having the perfect anything, that we want. Even when you get what you want, there are challenges. The foundation of all mental illness is the unwillingness to experience legitimate suffering. Life is putting us through a powerful program in which we are challenged and pushed to our edge sometimes. It’s hard, it’s difficult, but when we allow the pain and suffering to crack us open then something beautiful is revealed. Your acorn cracks open and the little tree begins to grow.
Your journey is right for your soul's growth and character development. Make your story right, accept it as the best way to grow your oak tree and choose it. This makes you stronger.
This is how positive psychology views life.
Part of restoring health is empowering yourself. Picture in your mind, you are an oak tree. The natural forces around you move your leaves, branches and may even cause your trunk to sway slightly, but it is because your are flexible where you need to be and the base is immovable because the roots go deep. The strongest tree is the one that stands alone in a field with no support from other trees, is tested by strong winds, driving rain, drought, and intense sun. The trees that grow with other trees close by, fall over from the roots when the other trees around them are removed because they were sheltered from the same environment that made the tree alone in the field stronger. That isn’t you! You are independent, powerful, beautiful, enduring. The trials in your life were designed to make you stronger. Empower your self image with this mental picture. Nothing will happen today that God has not already prepared you for. Relax and trust that He has a divine plan for your life and every detail, every step is going to put you in the most favorable position for healing and restoration. Not just your body, but your whole family. Empower yourself with that thought by slowing down and thinking about it periodically throughout the day. Say to yourself, “I am an oak tree!”
She wrote, "Johnna, I get that I have Systemic Candidiasis and Leaky Gut. I've tried so many things, without results. You are my last hope! I just worry that I am not disciplined enough - what if I try harder, and start your program and then realize I am not able to do it?"
There are so many things that disturb me about this email, and I know how to address all of her concerns, but I will focus on the last part of that question.
I know you're reading this because you want advice about how to recover from Candida. You want your health back. You want your life back. You want to be YOU again. I understand completely.
I have the strategy and provide the support to help you do all those things. But here's something I absolutely CANNOT do. I cannot change the basic Laws of the Universe, and one of those laws says that anytime you take ownership of something by attaching the words, "I am" or "I can't..." you immediately set forces in motion and it begins to come true in your life. This can work for or against you, but that depends entirely upon YOU.
In other words, whatever you believe about yourself and your life, whether you're sick or healthy, weak or strong willed, disciplined or not...the moment you say those words (in your head or out loud), you take ownership of it and everything in your brain goes to work to make that statement TRUE. It's an agreement you make between your soul/spirit and the spiritual forces in the Universe, combined with cognitive bias. If you ignore this law, it is at your own peril. Your words are powerful, so everything you speak and think shape your reality.
Saying or thinking, "I'm never going to get my health back", diminishes you. Or, "I can do this!" empowers you. Both of these mindsets create either negative or positive energy that you radiate outwardly from the inner-most parts of your being. That energy immediately interacts with the energy of people around you, and with the Universe, causing the results you birth in your mind. What you project, reflects back at you.
When I first started my private practice, it was all about strategy. I taught the "how", and I walked people through doing it. They started and then fizzled out, because I didn't fully recognize that 95% of healing starts in the brain. I went back to college and studied "Brain Retraining". Then I shifted my program to give even more mindset support and increased client accountability. I help my clients develop the mental and emotional skills to change their health status, but also their reality, which includes every part of their life; relationships with self and others. I help people have breakthroughs. But unless my clients step into a bigger, grander, more powerful vision of themselves, they won't be able to achieve the results they so desperately want and need in their life, and will continue as they have been.
Disease in the body is asking us to wake up, be self aware, self evolve, do life differently, learn life lessons, step into our personal power, and discover our passion and purpose for being here. Then, give the gift of ourselves to the world. I can't do this transformation for my clients. I can only give them the tools to do it for themselves.
Now, clients come through the program having achieve stunning, life changing results. They have personal power they never knew they possessed, a can-do attitude and the health to create the life they've dreamed of having for themselves and those closest to them. They did that!
Right now, there's a healthy, creative, energetic, authentic, and joy filled person inside of you. There's a life-changer inside you just waiting to be unleashed. And every day you delay healing is a day of your life lost to chronic symptom, illness and a shorter life expectancy. You get to decide when you want to start living your best life going forward and who you want to be from now on.
Sometimes I have to put 'death on the table' for people. Do you think my protocol would be more difficult than chemotherapy and radiation treatments or kidney dialysis? Of course not, but people wait so long that those become their only options.
The most difficult thing about my work, which I am very passionate about because I hate to see people suffer, is knowing I need to let people have their own journey. Perhaps they need to go round in the spin cycle of repeated trial and error again, before they are ready to stop the madness, see the life lesson they've been missing, learn it and pass the test, so they stop sabotaging their own healing and get on with it.
Do you want to stay stuck in yesterday's thinking and limitations? Or, do you want to bring to the surface and embrace the best parts of the person that I know is deep inside you, just waiting to be discovered, nurtured and known by the rest of the world? It's a choice I had to make and every one of my clients have to make that choice too. Healing begins in the mind, and this isn't about 'psychiatry,' but about discovering who you are on the deepest level; your soul, spirit, vital essence.
From my own personal experience with this type of transformation, every time I make the choice not to stay as I am, but to evolve, I step into a whole new and improved version of myself that I never knew was in me and of my life that I never thought possible. We are either evolving or de-evolving, but we get to decide which direction we are going.
The system this person, and so many people have been following unsuccessfully was designed not to work, was not specifically created for them and didn't include all of who they are; the whole person.
I educate, support, and challenge my clients to create the conditions for healing in their bodies and lives, by following a system that is specifically designed just for them and includes all of who they are; mind, soul and body, because it is all connected. I help my clients create and live in a physiological state of relaxation, because the body can only heal when it is relaxed; calm, rest, sleep, as opposed to stress, push, force, discipline, control. When you are motivated from desire, faith, love and hope, self discipline is not required.
God in His wisdom only gives us the information we need, in the moment we need it because if we have the big picture of our life from beginning to end, we wouldn't be able to handle the magnitude of it. If God had revealed to me in my early 20's, "You are going to lose your health, run on the hamster wheel of repeated trial and error for 30 years to learn what doesn't work and almost die of malnutrition, then develop the strategy to get your health back and go to college, so you can help people recover from the very thing that almost killed you, because this is My plan and purpose for your life," it would have freaked me out. Right! He had to give it to me in 'baby steps'; do this, then do this … God knows would be able to look back and see how every piece of the puzzle fit together to create the big picture that became my story, my journey. The same is true for you too. If each of us had the big picture, it would overwhelm us, so we simply need to commit to doing the plan as it is given to each of us, each day. We already do this every day.
In the same respect, I give my clients an outline of how we will proceed, but they don't not know every detail about how this is going to work. When I look at the big picture for each of my clients, because I know the details, it overwhelms me. So, I have to break it down into pieces that I can manage and then convey it to my clients as needed. I help my clients relax into uncertainty and trust that it will work. Together, we can do this.
It is time to say, "I can" and "I will." The health and life you want is waiting for you to evolve and claim it! It is so close and within reach. If you are ready to get out of your own way and step forward into healing, email me - Johnna Wheeler at email@example.com
Evaluate the situation, and use your creativity and problem solving skills to develop a plan or strategy. Then do the plan. If something isn't working as planned, simply adjust the plan and keep going. Keep your focus on the goal.
Breathe, relax into uncertainty and create spaciousness; live as if you have enough time. This will keep you in more of a relaxed state and help you avoid stressing too much or freaking out. What you are feeling is 'eustress' which gives you clear thinking, quick reflexes and physical strength when needed. It is a good kind of stress that helps you get things done.
When the crisis is over, let it go. Don't rethink it or think about it at all. Just go on to the next thing.
During the time you were in eustress, blood was shunted away from your digestive organs to provide resources to other parts of your body for quick thinking and action. This caused your meals eaten around that time to get backed up, because digestion and motility slowed or stopped. You may experience some acid reflux because food is sitting in your stomach. This is normal. Expect to be constipated the next day or two until things in your gut get moving again and all systems return to normal. Take care of yourself and work with the process.
The first time you, as a child looked in the mirror, you identified you as you. You became amazed and stared at your reflection in a very positive way.
We start to observe the world and what we see is conditioned by parents, society, the media and peers. We get confirmation from the world; "I'm acceptable or I'm not okay as I am. I'm lovable or not worthy of love. I'm smart or stupid. I'm pretty or ugly. I'm thin or fat."
The psyche functions through images. How you imagine your body is a subjective experience that can generate very concrete perceptions. You see what you believe. You don’t believe what you see. You create very strong conclusions that you think are correct, and they are not. This is at the core of how you see your body. Your belief skews your perception of yourself.
How you see yourself is how you imagine others see you. You are projecting what is in your imagination, on others, when that’s really not how they see you at all. Your imagination is subject to change and flights of fancy and can change from day to day, depending on who you are, how you are feeling, and where you are. You are going to constantly re-image yourself, because who you are changes as you get older. You imagine a very different self at 25 than you were at 15 and at 50 than you were at 25.
The way you imagine your body will lead to how you treat it, feed it, love/not love it, and how you move through the world.
When you empower the way you look at your body with a belief (positive or negative), that creates your world. You believe what you imagine and that creates your reality. That’s the power of the mind. If you look in the mirror and your subjective perception says, “You look good”. Then your concrete perception will agree and you will be walking through the world resonating that out.
The whole world will be a mirror back to you, of the perception and inner conversation you are resonating outwardly, which comes from your self perception and self talk.
How are you imagining your body; sweet, wonderful, lovable, pleasurable, touchable, attractive or hatable, contemptible, unlikable, boring, not interesting, not what you want?
When you look in the mirror and self attack, then you walk through the world resonating out those subtle, silent statements or mantras; “I am not good enough, I am not worthy, I’m not lovable as I am”. That’s what you will attract back to you; the kind of people who will think about and treat you the way you think about and treat yourself. Look at the energy you give to the image you have of yourself. Ask yourself, “How’s that working for me?”
I am a Certified Eating Psychology Coach. To understand you as a coach, I need to understand how you are looking at your body and really see how you see your body, which gives me the foundation to begin to understand your mind and reality as it relates to your body. I want you to start being aware of what you are imaging and how other people see you, through your own self perception. Your image is charged with a feeling, emotion, energy, desires, judgements, celebrations and with a set of beliefs. That’s what we’re exploring here. I will help you start to do a little shape shifting. The strategies I will be doing with you, very slowly, will help you reimagine and reinvent your world.
You’ve tried numerous products and approaches to restore your health, but the results you expected didn’t become reality. You thought to yourself, “Perhaps I didn’t do it right or for long enough? Maybe there is another product or way to deal with this?” You’ve been ripped off by products and people that promised results and didn’t deliver, been disappointed repeatedly, wasted time and money, and you are afraid to trust and try again. I know how you feel because that was my experience too.
You are coming up with reasons why you shouldn't do this again, but an equally large part of you knows if you don’t do something, you will continue to get worse. You used to have a promising career and an enjoyable life, but now your ill health won’t let you live to your fullest potential. Your life hasn’t turned out the way you planned and you want it back.
I want you to ask yourself a simple question: "Why are you considering another practitioner, prescription, product or procedure?” The answer: You want your health and your life back. Not trying will get you nowhere, but trying again is frightening, uncomfortable and you may be disappointed again. I understand your fear and frustration. I’ve been there too more times than I can count.
That simple question, and the answer to it, should shift everything from survival mode, which was just feeding your fears, and help you get back in control of your mind.
What's really keeping you from achieving your goals? Fear is paralyzing, and it is often disguised as things that don't seem like fear at all ... but when you dig down just a little, you realize that they are fear based: self protection, survival thinking.
Statements we tell ourselves like, "I'll never get control of this, I’m tired of trying, I’ve lost hope, What if this doesn’t work?” This is fear talking and it's keeping you from getting your health back and having the life you want.
The conversations you're having with yourself are just as logical sounding as mine were when I was in the same situation. And now you're starting to realize that you're getting ready - to get ready to do something about it and what’s holding you back is really just fear.
Fear is a right brain, survival mode way of operating that is based on emotion and instinct. Creativity, wisdom, logic, trust and confidence are found in the left side of your brain. You can’t be creative and solve problems, make wise decisions and be logical when you live in survival, fight or flight, emotional right brain functioning.
How do you change your right brain thinking to left brain thinking? The same thing I did - ask yourself, "Why am I doing this?" And don't give yourself a surface answer like ”I want my health back“. Dig deeper than that. I want you to list all the things you could or would do if you felt healthy, had energy for the tasks of the day and some to spare, could think clearly and remember, and your health was restored. Visualize and embody it, and feel what it would feel like.
The power of purpose enables you to tap into energy reserves, courage and determination, and create the healing and life you desire. What you visualize, you create. If you visualize yourself not getting well, not trusting and not trying one more time, not having the life you want, than that is the reality you create. If you want different results, you have to do something different.
Never loose sight of your goal and purpose. That is where your motivation and courage come from. A sense of purpose enables you to focus on what matters most, compels you to take risks and push forward regardless of the odds or obstacles. You’ve done it before when you wanted something that much. You’ve found out what doesn’t work in other areas of life and you made adjustments, overcame challenges, learned new information and went at it again with a whole new perspective. You can do this!
Knowing your “why” is an important first step in figuring out how to achieve the goals that excite you and create a life you enjoy living, versus merely surviving in the condition you are in right now!
Indeed, only when you know and focus intensely on your ‘why’ will you find the courage to take the risks needed to get where you want to go, and stay motivated when things get challenging.
All the experiences you had in previous years were not a waste. They had a purpose and you may not understand it now, but later, when you look back it will make sense.
If you're stuck, not wanting to try again because of fear, ask yourself that most important question: Why am I doing this? Revisit that question daily, because the more you ask it, the closer you'll get to freedom from chronic illness.